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August 06, 2004
The girl I'm dating told me she can't picture me married or even with a girlfriend. I thought this was interesting because she is dating me. So, this seems like this should be a paradox for her.
Anyway, I asked her why she thinks this.
"You put off this attitude like you don't care."
But I do care. I mean, why would I be dating you if I didn't?
"Even now, you just seem very content with your life. Like you don't need a girlfriend."
I am content. I like my life. I don't need a girlfriend. I want one.
She meant this as a compliment. She was saying I was very confident and comfortable with myself.
After a couple of days to think about this, I've realized a better way to put it:
I like my life. A lot. So much, in fact, that I think somebody else might enjoy being part of it; and I of hers. I could be perfectly happy being single for the rest of my life. But who's to say I won't be happier with somebody else in it? I'm willing to risk my perfect life to see if you can improve it.
That last paragraph was very well stated. That's exactly the attitude that one should take when approaching relationships. I think it's sad when someone thinks their life is terrible and that having someone else in it will fix everything. It's much better to look at it the way you did.
Posted by: Jill at August 9, 2004 09:32 AM
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